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GET THAT DATE RIGHT!
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So
its happened. That special person has just walked into your life
and your heart, lungs and a few other organs have decided to
swap places inside you...
Go on, don't just stand there - what are you waiting for? Take
the plunge. Nervous? Don't know what to say next? Just take a
few tips, polish those moves and you're ready to rock 'n roll!
Asking her out !
The cause for numerous sleepless nights, asking a girl out need
not be such a hyped, nail-biting experience as it is oft made
out to be. The trick is to do it with confidence, not the
swaggering kind, but the quiet, secure kind. (You could practice
a couple of times with your mirror). Make the effort, because
it's definitely uncool to presume that the girl's just hanging
around waiting to be asked by a stud like you, so don't presume
that her reply's going to be positive. Don't presume anything.
Ask her in a manner that makes her feel special and want to go
out with you - and if she says no, accept it.
5 ways not to ask a girl on a date:
- With your mouth full of garlic bread.
- While chatting up that Sonali Bendre look-alike.
- "Aati kya Khandala" (though it is known to work
in some rare cases - like if you're Aamir Khan, for e.g.)
- "Wanna hang out? Sometime"?
- "My girl friend just dumped me."
What to do if she says "No":
- Ask one more time (but not as if you're really shocked how
she could turn down a GGTW* like you!)
- If the answer is still "no", back off
gracefully. (and live to fight another day)
- Then, if she's really cute, ask again
- If it's still "no", go back to steps 1 and 2
- And if she still makes something inside you go hippety-hop,
start all over again.
* God's Gift To Women
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THAT
SPECIAL PLACE
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This, too, is
pretty crucial. There are two ways to go. Planning the entire
date out, without consulting the girl, can sometimes offend her
rather delicate temperament! But, some girls find it appealing
if the guy is masterful and has it all decided. See how it goes,
and maybe plan as you go along. Deciding things on the spot can
also be fun, and a great way to get to know each other.
Off the Beaten Path (unusual date
ideas)
- Walk in the rain
- Rent a home movie (be sure to choose the right one - Texan
Chain Saw Massacre may be your all time favourite but not
quite the thing to cuddle up to)
- Moonlight walk/drive and looking at the stars
- Cook a meal together (first check if she likes to cook!)
- Baby sit her nephew/ niece
- Clean up her cupboard/ room
- Help her with her History paper
- Read a book of poetry together
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Being
sensitive to her needs
Take this from a
guy who's been there, done that, nothing impresses a girl more
than if you ask her what her kind considers to be sensitive
questions and statements. To cite some examples "Here, this
seat is warmer" or the general "Yes, but what would
you prefer?", and of course the all famous, "And, how
was your day today?".
So, if you really want your date to be perfect, drop the stud
act you adopt with your pals, and turn on the Mr. Sensitive
button, 'coz that's what's going to get the girl!
INSIDE
A WOMAN'S HEAD
What
makes a woman accept a date
- The word that says it all - SENSITIVITY.
- Show that you care about her feelings and needs,
and you've got her. Most girls announce
"chivalry is dead", in their know-it-all
voices, secretly hoping desperately that it really
isn't.
- Girls like it if you ask them a lot of questions
about their lives and their interests. There's
nothing more boring that a guy who rambles on about
his friends, his vehicle (which we all know he
loves), his college life, and (God forbid!!) his
totally cool and happening social life. Zip those
lips and let the girl speak. Even when you're still
at the asking her out stage.
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Who Pays?
Now here's the clinch. If your date's a die-hard feminist, (and
you'll get to know about that as the date progresses) then for
god's sake don't argue when she proffers her wallet. If she's
not, and doesn't glare at you every time you hold the door open
for her, then don't hesitate to pay the entire bill. Always
expect to pay everything, just in case. There's nothing more
embarrassing than calling Papa at home 'coz you're out of cash.
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DO'S
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Do
- Make sure you've showered and smell good
- Arrive on time (remember, she can come late, you can't)
- Compliment her (great diffuser of tension and that
first-10-minutes-of-date nervousness and it'll give her a
pretty glow for the rest of the night!)
- Open doors and pull out chairs (Sir Galahad is alive and
kicking - at least in women's heads!)
- Pay attention (about how comfortable she is, who her
favourite writer is, how full her glass, how cute her laugh
is... got the drift?!)
Don't
- Be macho - and generally ooze studs and testosterone all
over the dance floor
- Look at other women - even if Cindy Crawford has just
walked in wearing a g-string
- Drink too much
- Order food that you have to wrestle with, gives you bad
breath or makes you burp
- Lie (about how beautiful she is, how rich you are... etc.
They can always tell - sooner or later.)
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